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char's avatar

he wasn't terrible, but my own father was abusive solely to my mother and he also left and cheated on her when i was around 8 or so. he didn't show up to provide for my siblings and i until a few years later, i still find myself unable to forgive him. father's day always brings apathy for me, but i cannot even imagine what emotions it must dredge up for you and so many other people with uncaring fathers who never even tried to step into that role.

i am genuinely so sorry you had to go through all of that. i appreciate this piece, especially that reminder towards the end. we don't owe them our kindness, grace, or forgiveness. your daughter is lucky to have you <3

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Sophie's avatar

Thank you for this post and for opening up about your story. I'm sending you love and a big hug. I was abused by my father and we are completely estranged, so it can be hard to see all the loving and caring fathers and wonder why I was never worthy of that treatment. Going through therapy and knowing I'll always make sure my future children feel loved and wanted helps.

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