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Maya's avatar

this makes me feel so seen, all applies but I’m a london girlie. beautiful ❤️

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caitlyn's avatar

🤎 thank you!

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Victor Ochoa's avatar

Which branches of the library do you recommend for reading in?

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caitlyn's avatar

That totally depends!

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Barbs Honeycutt's avatar

I like your perspective, a lot! Even just talking to neighbours feels so alien in a big city. I have plenty of awkward neighbour encounters, where we're on the elevator and suspiciously get off at the same floor, walk around the same corner, just to find ourselves side by side opening our respective doors and simply going: "ah, so it's you." and ending the conversation with a locked door.

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caitlyn's avatar

Yes to this! The smallest of small talk that doesn’t have to feel like pulling teeth 🤎

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Ben Bon's avatar

I spent a good year off the grid, and it taught me how to have real, genuine relationships. And now I am rediscovering how to balance both forms of connection in the modern world. I don’t feel less lonely because of social media anymore. I have learned to rely on real world interactions. I actually feel more connected in a nostalgic way, like I am rediscovering who my true authentic self is regardless of whether or not it gets approval. I hope it remains a source of inspiration.

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caitlyn's avatar

Oh, i love this. I’m glad you were able to find better balance- that seems to be the only way to truly move forward in our society when it comes to relationships but parasocially and in real life.

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Ben Bon's avatar

I agree, I think balance is a key term. Both ends of the spectrum aren’t realistic.

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zosia's avatar

this really spoke to me :) I recently moved to London, interestingly enough I have acquired many of your book recs while living here

- from another lonely girl

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caitlyn's avatar

I’m glad you’ve found some books! And I hope you find your people soon 🤎

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Annette Gates's avatar

From one city girlie to another, loved this and related so much to it. Alone vs lonely can be hard to decipher sometimes, especially as an introvert!

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caitlyn's avatar

I’m glad it resonated 🤎🤎

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Giulia C.'s avatar

currently reading to the lighthouse ❤️

your articles feel like a fall crisp day, a good book and a nice cup of hot chocolate

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caitlyn's avatar

How are you liking it so far?

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Giulia C.'s avatar

I am loving it so far. I love Virginia’s stream-of-consciousness way of writing, of course. But as the hopeless romantic I am, I feel like this might be my favourite book of hers so far—it really resonates with me in how she describes the inevitable flow of time and the longing for the past.

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Satoru Tawada's avatar

nostalgia = isolation

I have changed the meaning of an English word.......

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Paul Albear's avatar

THE GREEN RAY, by Eric Rohmer , is also one to watch!

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William Ferreira's avatar

I enjoy your writing style. It is reading a book next to the window on a rainy day.

As for what you’re saying, I think it’s very interesting that we have the ability to be closer than ever, yet we are so far apart. I think our urban environment is poor, it isn’t fun when all the houses go here and all the businesses go there. Our cities should reflect our lives, the fact that the city feels so far away when it is all so close is a poor indicator of our condition.

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Satoru Tawada's avatar

However, thanks for the comment which is severe and kind.

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